Why belong? If you are reading this, I am probably already “preaching to the choir” as they say. Belonging to a synagogue community allows an individual to be enfolded in a group that is ready to celebrate and honor life cycle events together. It is a place where some of our “longings” can be met: spirituality, knowledge, music, food and friends—a Jewish home. Psychology research finds that individuals who have a sense of belonging to a larger community have improved motivation, health, and happiness compared with those who don’t. There is great comfort in knowing that one is not alone and that all people struggle and have difficult times.
This summer we lost a beloved leader, colleague, and member of TE—Rabbi Gerald Brieger. His life full of song, stories, study, and fun infused TE for almost 40 years. Looking around the packed room at the funeral and at the Briegers’ home, one could feel his continued presence. His warmth and love of the community set the tone of who we are. Rabbi Farbman and the current community will set the tone of where we are going. Our mission statement in our by-laws is a well-written but many pronged statement that defines what we aim to accomplish. However, it doesn’t define the vision of who we are. This year the Board is going to take on the challenge of defining this vision. Please speak with members of the Board and let them know what you think.
Our banner announcing the upcoming school year states: “you belong here.” Having a sense of belonging is a common experience. Belonging means acceptance as a member or being part of a larger enterprise. A sense of belonging is a human need, just like the need for food and shelter. Feeling that you belong is most important in seeing value in life and in coping with intensely painful emotions. Some find belonging to a church or synagogue or mosque, some with friends, some with family, and some on Twitter or other social media. Some see themselves as connected only to one or two people. Others believe and feel a connection to all people, to humanity. Some struggle to find a sense of belonging, and their loneliness is physically painful for them. We have a fantastic community; now is the time to get your friends to belong with us.
I wish each of you a sweet new year full of belonging.