Mishenikhnas Adar, marbim b’simchah… From the moment the month of Adar begins, we increase the joy… This ancient rabbinic dictum reminds us that we are to celebrate Purim with much joy and happiness – not only on the 14th day of the Hebrew month of Adar (when the festival occurs) but from the very beginning of the month! That’s wonderful news, right?
For some reason, Purim seems to be a problem for many people. They view it as a festival for kids, something that takes place at a religious school if at all – kids dress up, maybe put together a purim shpiel (play), maybe have a costume parade. Grownups only need to turn up if they are a parent or a grandparent – or a rabbi :). This creates a reality of what many call a ‘pediatric Judaism’ – something reserved for kids. The result is that the minute the kids hit high school, they want to be nowhere near the celebration. Why would they, in their minds it’s only for kids! I think of this often, especially at the time of Halloween. When we take our kids trick-or-treating, I never cease to be amazed by teenagers, as well as grownups, fully dressed and having fun. Why is it, I wonder, most of us find Halloween a socially acceptable time to dress up and have fun, yet so many shun Purim as adults? Is it the deep religious message of the Halloween, perhaps, that tips the scales? 🙂
There’s another challenge. Have you read the Megillah in full? It’s blood-thirsty! It’s pretty heavy! It speaks in categories that we find challenging to say the least… You do NOT want to read the full, unabridged text of the megillah to the little kids before bed – and so we omit a few details from our story as we play it out in religious school. Combine that with the fact that we refuse to go back to Purim and the text as adults and voila – you have a problem. For years now I have been advocating that every year we should engage in serious discussion of the megillah text – with all the gory details. We should challenge ourselves and find our own answers. We should never allow ourselves to disengage from this part of our heritage. Last year we had a fabulous Purim party for adults. We read the megillah, we dressed up, we had a musical Purim spiel, had a drink or two (or three – after all, it is a mitzvah on Purim :)) and we danced the night away. Not a single person wanted to go home! This year on March 10th at 7:00pm we are doing it all over again – and we know that THIS year there will be many, many more TE members who will not want to miss this party! Please click here to sign up! Don’t forget to bring your family and friends!
Earlier that morning (Saturday March 10, 10:30 am) I invite you all to come and study the megillah in English with adults as part of our weekly Torah study group – it will be fun and it will be educational, there will be coffee and hamentaschen! Remember, Adar is the time for joy! Come yourself. Make sure the teenagers are there. Make sure they see YOU having fun – and engaging with Judaism for YOUR sake, not just for their sake. Maybe, just maybe, they will know that it’s OK to have fun being Jewish :).
Chag Purim Sameach! A Happy Purim!
Rabbi Farbman.
(this article first appeared in the monthly Shofar in March 2011)